4 things mentally strong people don't do
I regularly listen to the Something You Should Know podcast because i'm into knowing random facts just in case I get my spot on Jeopardy. One episode that featured best selling author Amy Morin stood out to me. Morin wrote a book titled 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do and I realized that I was lacking four out of thriteen things and with practice I could improve on to them to be more mentally strong.
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1. Don't pity themselves - I tend to overstay my welcome in pity parties way too long. I'm thrown off track by my pity for myself and this causes me to be less productive in my bounce back. The last year was very transformative for me both personally and professionally and there were several events that left me feeling sorry for myself. The trick that helped me cope with these losses were the fact that I was still standing - my resilience. I realized I moved through these difficult times much more gracefully than I thought and was able to revel in this new trait. What I think in feeling sorry for myself isn't always true!
2. Don't try to please everyone - I want to (and am practicing) not pleasing others to the point where I don't voice my concerns. The aim is to approach a situation being assertive enough to stand up for myself even if others get upset yet still handle it with grace.
3. Don't fear change - Change is tricky and most of the time I wanted no parts of it. As I got older I realized that change needed to happen to get me to the visions I planned for my life creatively and personally. Without change I was willing to stay stagnant and I had reached a point where I was frustrated with going nowhere fast. My frustration turned productive by setting a list of short-term (at the time) goals, which lead me to cross off a couple already. One of my main goals I accomplished so far was moving to a new city for better career opportunities and officially launching my career in marketing.
4. Don't resent the success of others - Mentally strong people don't resent the success of others because they trust that they have the determination and work ethic within themselves to reach goals considered successful. Amy Lorin also spoke on the podcast about when people feel themselves getting jealous of others' accomplishments that we should take the time to define success for ourselves. Light-bulb moment: Once I defined success by literally writing out my own definition based on what I wanted out of life my vision became more clear and much more unique, which lead to much less comparison to others. There's strength in being truly happy for the success of others once you reclaim what's most important to you.